In fact, you should not, but that is not the piece of advice you are most likely to be wanting to hear, right? Whenever you have any suspicions just not try to dismiss your fears as you can bet on them growing and becoming even more palpable whenever he gets home tad too late. However, you won’t escape the problem of wanting to intrude someone’s privacy just to make sure you as desirable as always, without his or her knowledge. It is mostly women that turn into private eyes in the privacy of their bathrooms, but men are not any less inclined to check on their sweethearts’ standards of keeping their part of bargain fair. Whether you cohabit or not you are bound to experience the doubt mixed the feeling of growing mistrust. Do not let your mindset kill your relationship, whether it is budding or is in full bloom. What are the resons behind the irrational?
Do Not Rely on Research
An honest approach would yield more in the long run than any shortcuts that you might take by becoming an I-spy or hiring one. Deep down you realize that your behavior is bound to drive you insane and it is only your head that is messed up. Imagine the scenario in which your guy indeed is pulling a nasty trick behind you back, then you know the next steps, so any detective work is simply money wasted. On the other hand, while your fears may be well grounded, since you have observed your partner’s ways, then again, attack the problem head-on and do not let them sway you. But only do it if you feel mature enough to handle the break-up, which as well may ensue once your partner learns that you have followed him/her everywhere to make sure they are behaving properly, according to suitably high standards ( where you fail!). If this behavior is overwhelming and you just cannot help yourself but wonder what the heck is going on, arrange a meet-up with a close friend, and with a psychologist that could sell you some tips on bringing your inner chaos into a wholesome whole. If you are being driven by jealousy, that would have to be addressed, as the very same pattern is bound to emerge sooner or later in any of your relationships. Or perhaps you have been there before or you just managed to find a special guy, only started to lose confidence for some reason.
No, I’m not going to say you need to find an ersatz for a lover to have your revenge, that is not what any meaningful relationship is about. But any crisis, and seeking the answer to a question like this needs to be classified like this, signals steps to be taken, without resorting to less than smart moves. It calls for more soul work than anything else.